Is an Elopement or Intimate Wedding for You? Here are a few reasons why you should consider it!
Updated: Jan 30
YOUR WEDDING DAY IS A TRUE REFLECTION OF THE LOVE YOU SHARE WITH YOUR PARTNER, RATHER THAN A PERFORMANCE FOR EVERYONE ELSE.
YOU GET TO RELAX AND SOAK UP THE ENTIRE DAY TOGETHER, RATHER THAN FEELING RUSHED OR ONLY GETTING TO SPEND A FEW MINUTES OF QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR PATNER.
YOU ARE FREE TO BE COMPLETELY YOURSELVES AND SHOWCASE YOUR LOVE STORY IN ITS RAWEST FORM. NO EXPECTATIONS TO LIVE UP TO OR JUDGEMENT FROM OUTSIDE OPINIONS. YOU ARE FREE TO EXCHANGE VOWS IN THE MOST INTIMATE AND VULNERABLE WAY.
Before I jump into specific reasons, I want to clear something up. I think there is a misunderstanding about what an elopement is that stops couples from considering it. An elopement is not an ill-planned, last minute, shameful, or dishonorable way to get married. While this might be what our grandparents understood an elopement to mean, its just not the case anymore! Instead, an elopement is a very intentional choice to forego tradition, cut down the guest list, and exchange vows in the most intimate way. While many couples choose to keep their elopement completely intimate with just the two of them, the term cannot be put in a box. There are small weddings that include the couples' family, friends, or truest supporters that have the same intimacy as a two person elopement. The point is, its all about y'all and your love story!
So lets jump in...
1) IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU AND YOUR LOVE STORY!
I think this reason should be obvious based on what I've already mentioned. But let's dive a little deeper. Maybe you have family members who are toxic to your relationship. Maybe your spouse is truly your best friend and having a wedding party feels unnatural. Maybe saying your vows to anyone but your spouse is terrifying, and you want to keep those words as sacred as possible. When it's just the two of you, or limited to your truest supporters, there is no need to put on a show or try to impress anyone. You can be completely yourselves! And there is something so magical about exchanging vows with the love of your life when you are most vulnerable and real.
2) YOU HAVE MORE FREEDOM IN WHAT YOU INVEST YOUR MONEY IN AND HOW MUCH YOU NEED TO SPEND!
It's no secret that weddings are expensive. The national average is somewhere near $35,000. Eloping can save you so much money and you have so much more freedom in where you spend it. Maybe you just don't have that much money to spend. Maybe you don't want to spend the money you do have on frills that seem distant from who you are as a couple. When you elope you can cut out all the frills and boil it down to the things that are really important to y'all! Maybe it's plane tickets to the location of your dreams, a photographer who gets you, wedding attire that makes you feel sexy and confident, the most beautiful florals, the rings that you've always wanted, or something so crazy specific and unique that I could never possibly write it here. Whatever it is, you get to invest all of your money in things that really matter to y'all and skip on the things that don't.
3) YOU HAVE MORE FREEDOM IN THE LOCATION WHERE YOU EXCHANGE VOWS!
When you cut down the guest list to either just yourselves or only your truest supporters, you have so much more freedom in where you can tie the knot. Kind of bouncing off the previous point, you can also save money and invest it where it matters by having your wedding and honeymoon in one! Imagine planning an epic adventure in Iceland and then exchanging your vows in a secluded ice cave. Or going backpacking through Europe and exchanging vows in Lake Como at sunset. It doesn't have to be Iceland or Italy, but do you get what I'm saying? You have the freedom to basically get married anywhere your heart desires! Make it a week, or month long adventure and you can enjoy your honeymoon while your there! There is something so humbling about staring out at a breathtaking view while exchanging vows with the love of your life. Kind of like a metaphor, you have an epic adventure in front of you and the comfort of home beside you through it all.
4) YOU CAN HAVE THE BEST OF BOTH WORLDS!
If you read this are immediately started singing the intro to Hannah Montana in your head, you are my people! haha! But on a real note, having an elopement or intimate wedding doesn't mean you can't have a reception or epic celebration if that's something you want. You just have more freedom! Maybe you choose a breathtaking location that is accommodating for you and your truest supporters and end the night with an intimate dinner party. Maybe you elope with just your spouse at the location of your dreams, then come home and celebrate with all your loved ones over dinner and dancing! When you elope, you can keep the ceremony as sacred and intimate as possible, but still celebrate with everyone you know. With this kind of celebration, there isn't the same pressure as a traditional reception to go all out and spend loads of money. Rather, having a simple, laid-back celebration when you get home is such a sweet way to make your loved ones feel included.
Eloping may not be for everyone, and that's totally okay! The point I am trying to make with this post is that I believe everyone should at least consider it. If having a big, traditional, ballroom wedding is what feels most true to you and your spouse, I wouldn't want you to do anything different! But I also don't want you to feel pressured into having a big traditional wedding when that isn't true to you and your spouse. All in all, YOU DO YOU! After all, this is YOUR wedding day and you should spend it exactly how you want!!!